Giving Hope to Families

Giving Hope to Families

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Jit Lal Tamang, 36 from Banskharkha Village of Sindhupalchowk helps to carry a bucket of water inside the temporary shelter he and his family lives in, while his wife, Kami Granden cooks. However, this kind of peaceful environment was not common a while ago.

“At one point of time I thought of killing myself because of the fights I had with my husband,” says Kami as she prepares to feed her family.

Kami’s voice echoes the concerns of many women in the country who silently endure gender based violence (GBV) from their own spouse or other family members. The social stigmas in the remote villages are high and cases of violence never surface in the community. They stay confined within the boundaries of people’s homes.

“My husband used to drink alcohol and hit me. He would get very violent. More than for myself, I was worried about my children’s safety”, recalls Kami.

Jit Lal further adds: “My alcoholism affected everything. We had difficulty managing our household expenses and paying our children’s school fees.”

Unfortunately many men who survived the terrible earthquake that struck Nepal in April last year share his story.  Consumption of alcohol was on the rise right after the earthquake hit as a way for men to cope with the tragedy. Alcohol has sincebeen one of the root causes of violence against women in the earthquake affected districts.

CARE helped couples such as Jit Lal and Kami to start afresh. CARE Nepal has been conducting various awareness raising programs on GBV through radio programs and information volunteers have reached out to familys in many districts.

 “I had attended one interaction program on GBV conducted by CARE Nepal. This gave me the courage to speak up about the violence I faced at the hands of my husband”, says Kami. She was also able to convince her husband to attend a counseling session conducted by CARE Nepal.

“At the counseling session, they told me to ponder upon my children’s future. For the first time, I realized the negative impact my behavior had on my children. This realization was a turning point for me,” Jit Lal states.

Kami says that after her husband was counseled by CARE’s partner staff he has stopped consuming alcohol altogether. Jit Lal has not consumed alcohol for almost four months now and he is committed to maintain his sobriety. “Things are so much better now. We are able to manage our expense well and send our children to school. But most importantly, our children deserve happiness and we are now able to give them a peaceful environment,” says an elated Kami.

Kami and Jit bahadur with their son and daughter inside their temporary shelter.